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How to Master Your Fear of Public Speaking

Before going into Fear less public speaking you'll notice I've
broken up the word
fearless into two words fear-less, the reason being if we go right
to the root of what we
fear and learn to fear-less, then we are better equipped to deal
with whatever may be at
hand, whether it's making a speech or going after our dreams, which
up to this point, we
have let fear keep us from striving to achieve it. It may be the
fear of failure, it may be
the fear of public humiliation or whatever, was it Roosevelt who
said the only thing we
have to fear, is fear itself. He had a keen understanding that most
fears were largely,
rooted in our imagination, the French emperor Napoleon said that
Imagination was a
stronger force than will power, case in point, think about a habit
like smoking, we make
the resolve to stop smoking, and by the sheer force of our wills,
we stop for a week or
maybe two, then one night your watching a program on TV, and the
character your
watching is puffing on a cigarette, you try to resist, by will
power but as the character
draws on the cigarette, and blows out the smoke he or she makes it
look so good, that
your imagination starts to, bring up images when you were smoking,
and before you
know it, you have given in, and reached for a smoke, so much for
your resolve not to
smoke. We as human being are present in the community of self, the
intended ruler is the
will, but the will can be hijacked by the imagination, the
emotions, the flesh or whatever,
so it is our job to make sure the intended ruler of self is the
will power, by doing this you
will be in the position to manage your thoughts, thus managing your
fears.

Beginners Guide to fearless public speaking

let me start by saying for all of you who get frightened at the prospects of speaking inpublic, fear no more, anyone can become a confident and entertaining speaker with a little practice and know-how. You can approach public speaking in two ways, one is Inspiration, there are many public speakers who with nothing more than the topic, speak directly from the heart , meaning whatever inspired words come to mind about their particular topic, that's what they speak on.Now all of us are not so lucky, because when were nervous, nothing that makes sense, comes out of our mouth's. Most people use the second approach, taken from an actors training workshop that says"security is in knowing your lines"know what it is you want to say, write it down and stand before a mirror and practice it, then practice the practicing, then when it comes time to give your presentation you will deliver it like a pro.Above all remember as a public speaker, you are a teacher, imparting useful information to your audience, so the next time you are called on to make a speech, fear less, and speak more, with confidence, and know more than anything, that your audience wants
you to succeed.

Pressure can bust a pipe

Speak up- Speak out, don't keep it bottled inside. There's more room on the outside than the inside, to keep the things that bother or concern you locked up. Pressure can and will bust a pipe, express yourself. Everywhere around the world, people have decided the revolution is about freedom, the freedom to express their views, without persecution or the fear of death.If you have something to say, say it don't let the self consciousness of speaking in public stop you, the message is more important than you.

On Leadership- You cant come in a Pussycat ,then turn into a Lion.- John Milton Lawrence, "speak or get benched

A very simple truth is this, you catch more flies, with honey, than you do with vinegar, let me explain. One employer, started out being decent, kind and understanding to his employee's, then when the sales numbers dropped, he turned, cold and verbally abusive to get results. This did not work because no one of the employees took him serious, they just saw him as someone who now wanted to intimidate and BULLY them to get results, they did not respond. Now as the business owner sat pondering, what would be the fate of his business, because he has realized, if you fail at human relationships, you fail at business, you fail at LIFE. Though not advised, he would have stood a better chance coming in a Lion, then turning into a pussycat, you can never come in a pussycat, then turn into a Lion, you will be seen as,desperate and weak.

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Who is John Milton Lawrence anyway?

A brief bio of  John Milton Lawrence, former products Pitchman from New York city who, who worked along side Chef Tony Nataro, of Infomercial fame, he sold "as seen on TV products," like the Miracle slicer and Ginsu knives, he worked all over the country, selling to crowds of people, as he honed his craft in selling and public speaking. He decided to move to California in 1996 to work in the entertainment Industry, he worked for his brother, Martin Lawrence at Martin's production company Runteldat, first as a  personal assistant to Martin, then in script development.  John Milton was also given credit as co writer/producer, on Martins comedy CD Talkin Sh-t, as well as having worked on the Fox network hit show Martin, and debuted on one episode of the Martin show as a double in the episode "SCROOGED  Milton also worked on various Movies such as Nothing to Lose, Blue Streak and Rebound, John Milton Lawrence is an expert author, and public speaking coach. John Milton, formed his own company Golden Empire Publications, and has since written and published thirteen books, John Milton resides in sunny southern California, with his wife Tina, son Jihad and grand daughter, Kaylee Juliana.

How to Master you fear of public speaking

Everyone knows that choosing a great topic for your speech, is half the battle won. So how do you choose an appropriate topic for your speech? First of all, ask yourself, what are your interests and area's of expertise, chances are, if it is something that bores you, it will also bore your audience. There is no quicker way to commit public speaking suicide, than by lulling your audience to sleep, with a boring speech. People will tune you out, so choose a topic, you are really passionate about, because the upside is that people will respond, they will feel your passion, your excitement, your interest in what you are saying, remember excitement and enthusiasm is contagious. Be definite and clear about your topic, one side of the road or the other, no mediocre middle of the road stuff, because you know what happens to things that are middle of the road, they end up as road kill. What are your own personal experiences, because there is strength in what you've gone through in your life, who can speak on you, better than you. Another way to choose a dynamic topic, is to draw from the main stream media, it's like the flavor of the month, or the book of the month club, what's popular this month. Most importantly emphasize what you learned from the experience, and how it can help your audience. You are there to deliver something of value to your audience, and it is what they expect. Focus on the message not the messenger, and you will master your fear of public speaking.

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David the author vs Goliath the publisher

America land of the free, home of the brave, this is what David the author, believed and thought, the ideal of America and American business, was a fair and competitive marketplace. David would soon come to know the 800 pound publishing giant, Goliath the publisher, makes his own rules. When it should be strictly about business, they chose to make it personal, by censoring or attempting to nit pick and prolong the publication of a book, that is religious in nature, someone at Goliath's business, has lost sight that it is about free speech, David assures the readers, that his words were not there to anger or incite anyone, but rather to make us think, as the greatest work we will do, is on OURSELVES. My aim in loading a stone into my SLINGSHOT, is only in defense, because turmult and oppression, are worst than slaughter. first of all, I did not throw the first stone, I did not draw first blood, I DAVID, only wrote a BOOK!

How not to do Public Speaking

Practice Fearless Speaking, not Fearful Listening

Practice Fearless Speaking, not fearful listening Now that may seem like an odd headline, but when you think about it in the context of, speaking in public, or judging others, when you listen, through your fears, and prejudices, you don't get very far because, listening through your fears and prejudices, gives you a very distorted view of things. Id' like to list this poem, I heard Dr. Wayne Dyer recite, but I don't know who the author is, the name of the poem is-                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   A woman was waiting at the airport one night,

With several long hours before her flight.
She hunted for a book in the airport shop,
Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.

She was engrossed in her book, but happened to see,
That the man beside her, as bold as could be,
Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag between,
Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene

She read, munched cookies, and watched the clock,
As the gustly "cookie thief" diminished her stock
She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by,
Thinking, "If I wasn't so nice, I'd blacken his eye!"

With each cookie she took, he took one too.
When only one was left, she wondered what he'd do.
with a smile on his face and a nervous laugh,
He took the last cookie and broke it in half.

He offered her half, and he ate the other.
She snatched it from him and thought, "Oh brother,
This guy has some nerve, and he's also so rude,
Why, he didn't even show any gratitude!"

She had never known when she had been so galled,
And sighed with relief when her flight was called.
She gathered her belongings and headed for the gate,
Refusing to look at the "thieving ingrate".

She boarded the plane and sank in her seat,
Then sought her book, which was almost complete.
As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise.
There were her bag of cookies in front of her eyes!

"If mine are here," she moaned with despair.
"Then the others were his and he tried to share!"
Too late to apologize, she realized with grief,
That she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief!!!!

The Power of a Good Speech, to Persuade

A good speech has the power to persuade Were going to use the Reality show, survivor, for an example, someone in the group has ruffled the feathers of many of the other tribe members, and have been considered weak, and disliked, for some reason, or another. The majority of the other members of the tribe, have their own reason for joining the alpha mindset, in wanting to vote this member off. Now this is where the majority mindset of a good majority of the tribe members are set upon, SENDING THIS PERSON, home. This is where that person who is failing in the social struggle, has come to a FORK IN THE ROAD, they can simply accept it, or if they want to stay in the game, they will fight on. They decide to go to a few of the people, they know don't like them, under the hope that they, can persuade them to reconsider voting you off. You know you must tell them the best story you can, to persuade them to your way of thinking, you do this to several people, but because you have decided to speak up, and to speak out in behalf and in your own DEFENSE. Now it is time for tribal council, has your plan, your game saving speech, convinced and persuaded those members to not vote you out. Tribal council is here, and when Jeff, the host asks you anything, and if he doesn't, you will speak out, to get your short speech about how, it seems as those there are many members, who want to vote me out, let me say, first of all, I would very much like to stay, and I am sorry if some of my behavior has annoyed, any of you, if you keep me here, I will earn the groups trust, and one last thing, I know I didn't reach out to get to know most of you, but if I stay, I look forward, to knowing about you, and your families. The tribe votes, and it is close, between you and someone else in the tribe, the last vote, the deciding vote is read, followed by the second member to be voted off survivor digital story is,........ and it's not your name, your fight rather than flight response, led you to, speak up and speak out to tell a very persuasive story to win more time in the game, to possibly win ONE MILLION DOLLARS. Ah the power of a good speech, to persuade.

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Fearless Public Speaking

Most people suffer from what's known as Glossophobia, or stage fright, when called on to make a toast at a wedding, or any situation we are called on to speak in public, our knees get weak, we get butterflies in our stomach's, our palms start to sweat and the words come out sounding like were from outer space. If this sounds like you, don't worry because you are not alone, millions of people have the Fear of public speaking. Comedian Jerry Seinfeld says " when it comes to funerals, most people would rather be the one in the casket, than the one giving the eulogy". Good news! Help is on the way. The fear that you have of public speaking, is basically, an imaginary factor, and anything imagined, can be unimagined. Was it former President Roosevelt who said "the only thing we have to fear is fear itself". You can learn to be a fearless, more confidant speaker in 30 days or less, Vince Lombardi, the famed football coach said, "The Price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand."

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Speaking about what makes you angry, eliminates Fear

While this may sound a bit out of the norm, to speak about what makes you angry, is a very effective technique. Dale Carnegie the author of "How to win friends and influence people" discovered this, completely by accident. The logic behind this, is, to notice how passionate people can be, when they have been hurt or wronged in some way. I can absolutely tell you, if you have been wronged and had to get up in front of an audience, the city council or who ever, you would not be focused on your fear, but rather your grievance, nothing could be easier. When crafting your speech, make sure it is about something you are really passionate about, something that kind of makes you angry, some injustice you would like to right. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. found his passion, in the civil rights movement, and his desire for equality for all people and genders, it made him a fearless and passionate public speaker, even in the face of death. So ask yourself, what makes you mad, the people of Egypt, were so angry, with what many would say was 30 years of oppression, their anger, brought about a REVOLUTION, the phycsological barrier of FEAR, had been broken, and Pharoah could oppress no more. 

Speak or get Benched

This post is titled, after the name of the blog, and speaks to fact, that many people have short circuited their personal growth, by allowing fear to dictate their lives. We use the analogy of an athlete, to make our point.When people are paying you big bucks, and expect you to deliver, what happens, if he doesn't perform, or live up to his potential, he gets benched. Who want's to sit on the sidelines of any sport, while all the other players, are in the game. Even the sport of life, many people are content to let others, have all the adventures, make all the big money, while they sit idly by complaining or having a pity party. My answer to that is to cry two tears in a bucket and if that don't fill it ___________, well you know the rest. There are many people out there, who could otherwise benefit, a lot of people, with their acumen, but instead, have let their fears mute them, because of their fear of public speaking, I'm here to say to you, rise to your greatest heights, your greatest potential, your best self, lead, follow or get the hell out of the way. Speak or get benched.

Using Humor as an Icebreaker, in Public Speaking

I can remember the very first time, I was called on at my local Toastmasters group, to give my icebreaker speech. I had to stand in front of a room full of strangers, introduce myself, and tell them, who I was and what I do. After all isn't that what everyone we meet wants to know. I stood up, told them my name and my background in the entertainment business, and my role working for my celebrity brother. The only problem was that I was no longer working for him. It's funny when people hear you have a celebrity in your family, they automatically assume, that you have what they have, and that couldn't be further from the truth. Everyone no matter who they are, still has to make their own way, their own name, and especially their own money. I simply told the audience, I was no longer working for my brother, we had parted ways, because of creative differences, and the group loved it, and thought that line, was a very funny way to put it. I'm not ashamed to say, I borrowed that line from the movie Mommy Dearest, when the actor playing Louis B. Mayer fired Joan Crawford, (played by Faye Dunnaway) from the studio. So you see how a little impromptu humor can go a long way, Remember when in need of humor, if you don't have it, Borrow it! Entertainers, are not always the outgoing people, they appear to be in the public eye, the late entertainer Sammy Davis Jr. uses humor in his book "Yes I can," when describing the obstacles he had to overcome, in HOLLYWOOD, he says, about himself, what could be funnier, than a black, one eyed  Jew, and people loved him, as he achieved his own personal success, with friends like the late Dean Martin, and Frank Sinatra. So learn to make a friend of humor, and you'll be laughing all the way to the bank.

Nothing succeeds, like success, in Public Speaking

What we mean by, "nothing succeeds, like success in public speaking" is exactly how it sounds. Were going to look at a public speaking success story. Case in point the Christian Pastor Joel Osteen, who is the leader of one of the largest churches and congregations, in the United States. It's called a Mega-church, but is wasn't always that way. Joel would be the first one to tell you, that he had no desire to pastor a church. Prior to his father's passing, he loved what he was doing, by being a behind the scenes guy. Then after sickness, his father passed away, Joel was called on to pastor the church, and refused by using every excuse in the book, but God had a different plan for him. Fast forward twelve years, here is a man with no prior public speaking experience, who is a poised, confident and eloquent speaker, why because he discovered the secret. What is the secret, plain and simply that the power is in the doing, the more you do, the more you are able to do. Use Joel's story as an inspiration for your own public speaking success, do less stressing and more speaking.

I'ts the Message not the Messenger

Just as the title implies, it's the message, not the messenger. One sure way to set yourself up for failure is to focus on the me, me, me, remember you are there to impart useful information to your audience, that will help them solve a particular problem. By targeting your audience, and knowing what their interests are, you have tailored your speech, to speak to their interests and concerns not yours. One can teach some of the finer points of public speaking, but the speaker must have an inward desire to say something, to express something of value. Then with all the might and passion you can muster, get up and do it. You might have heard me tell the story from Claude M. Bristol's book, "The Magic of Believing" about the great Magician Howard Thurston, who loved to entertain his audience through magic. Before going out on the stage he would always remind himself, that is was about the audience, and not him. He would say to himself prior to getting on stage, "I love my audience, and I'm going to give them the best, that's in me. The audience responded and he made $2 million dollars, in yesterdays money. No one is really wealthy, until his desires include, the concern for others.

Speak and Grow Rich

Let me start by saying for all of you who get frightened at the prospects of speaking in public, fear no more, anyone can become a confident and entertaining speaker with a little practice and know-how. You can approach public speaking in two ways, one is Inspiration, there are many public speakers who with nothing more than the topic, speak directly from the heart , meaning whatever inspired words come to mind about their particular topic, that's what they speak on. Now all of us are not so lucky, because when were nervous, nothing that makes sense comes out of our mouth's. Most people use the second approach, taken from an actors training workshop that says "security is in knowing your lines"know what it is you want to say, write it down and stand before a mirror and practice it, then practice the practicing, then when it comes time to give your presentation you will deliver it like a pro. Above all remember as a public speaker, you are a teacher, imparting useful information to your audience, so the next time you are called on to make a speech, fear less, and speak more, with confidence, and know that your audience wants you to succeed. The funny thing about fear, is that it is basically at it's core an imaginary thing. what was it that Roosevelt said "the only thing we have to fear, is fear itself." Now that we know exactly what it is that may be keeping us from being all we can be, its time to clear our minds, our imaginations. Don't create monsters in your mind, that aren't there, what you see is what you get. Instead of seeing yourself failing at public speaking, change the channel in your mind, and you'll be surprised at what a difference it will make. Learn to go into the talking mode in your head, telling yourself positive things, rather than being in the listening mode, that keeps telling you you will fail. Being an accomplished public speaker, can make a big difference in your income. Gain the know how, so you can Speak and Grow rich.

Fearless Public Speaking

Most people suffer from what's known as Glossophobia, or stage fright, when called on to make a toast at a wedding, or any situation we are called on to speak in public, our knees get weak, we get butterflies in our stomach's, our palms start to sweat and the words come out sounding like were from outer space. If this sounds like you, don't worry because you are not alone, millions of people have the Fear of public speaking. Comedian Jerry Seinfeld says " when it comes to funerals, most people would rather be the one in the casket, than the one giving the eulogy". Good news! Help is on the way. The fear that you have of public speaking, is basically, an imaginary factor, and anything imagined, can be unimagined. Was it former President Roosevelt who said "the only thing we have to fear is fear itself". You can learn to be a fearless, more confidant speaker, the famed football coach Vince Lombardi said "The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand."                    ~ Vince Lombardi